Why She Keeps Trying
J. Raymond once wrote: “When I see her, I’ll ask her why she does it—why she keeps trying. Why she keeps investing in things that easily break and people who are much too weak.”
That question lingers with me. Why do we keep offering love when it is so often mishandled? Why do we open our hearts when they are so easily broken?
The answer is not about logic. It is about courage. The courage to keep showing up. The courage to keep choosing love, even when the world has given us every reason to shut it down.
The Fragile Strength of a Heart
Hearts are not as strong as we pretend they are. They split, they bruise, they ache. Yet the willingness to offer a heart anyway is the deepest form of strength.
Raymond wrote, “When you come looking for her, come gently. Because hearts aren’t as strong as we pretend they are, and hers is splitting at the seams.”
That gentleness matters. It is not weakness. It is the strength of restraint, patience, and presence. True strength does not trample—it protects.
Touching Versus Feeling
“Understand that touching her and feeling her are two very different things.”
This is the line that hit me hardest. How many times have we been touched without ever being felt? Touch can be empty. Feeling requires attention. It requires presence.
When you feel someone, you honor more than their body—you honor their story, their spirit, their truth. And when you allow yourself to feel her, she will touch you deeply in return.
The Sacred Weight of Permission
Raymond describes her embrace as more than an act: “It’s her handing you the needle and giving you permission to sew her back up.”
That image is powerful. It is not about fixing her. It is about receiving her trust. When someone lets you close enough to see their broken places, it is sacred permission. Permission to witness. Permission to hold gently. Permission not to harm what is already fragile.
And if you cannot feel the weight of that permission, then as he writes, “a kiss will always be meaningless.”
Respect as the Foundation
Respect cannot be faked. It cannot be demanded. It must be earned through consistency and care.
Whether in love, friendship, or kink, respect is what gives intimacy its strength. Without it, connection collapses. With it, every embrace becomes more than just physical—it becomes soul-deep.
The Courage of Vulnerability
Why does she keep trying? Because vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability is courage.
Each time she opens her heart again, she chooses to defy fear. Each time she risks trust again, she proves that her spirit is stronger than the pain of the past. That is not fragility. That is power.
Presence Above All
When she wraps her arms around you and rests her cheek against your back, it is not just an act of affection. It is her choosing you as her safe place.
That is not something to rush or dismiss. Presence is everything in that moment. To feel her means to honor her completely, body and soul.
Closing Reflections
When I see her, I will ask her why she keeps trying. And I will remember: her heart is not mine to fix, but mine to honor.
If I ever forget the weight of her trust, then every kiss will be meaningless. But if I hold it with reverence, even the smallest moments will carry eternity inside them.
Reflective Questions
- Have you ever mistaken touching someone for truly feeling them?
- Who has trusted you with their broken places, and how have you honored that gift?
- What does gentleness look like in your relationships?
- How do you remind yourself that vulnerability is courage, not weakness?